September was National suicide / mental health awareness month and I'm sure many of y'all saw posts or signs that said: "It's ok to not be ok". Yet, how many of us really feel like this is true? Is it really ok to not be ok? Because most of us don't want to hear about someone else's problems or frame of mind- unless they're really near and dear to our hearts. The minute an acquaintance or stranger says one negative thing to me on a daily basis I can't help but think "dang, this person is KILLING my positive vibes!" - even if I myself don't have any positive vibes.
We're judging creatures. & I think we all want and are attracted to happiness. Or at least something that gives the allusion of happiness. Maybe it's money, success, a hobby, a person, a material item, a place - but something guides us and makes us believe that happiness can be obtained if we try hard enough. So I think it comes by human nature that we aren't attracted to people who are down or negative, even if we feel the same way. We want someone to inspire us, lift us up. Maybe because we can't do it ourselves.
That all being said, it is actually ok to not be ok. Maybe you don't have to scream it from the rooftops or talk about it 24/7, but if you're not feeling like life is that great right now then you should express it. Friends and family don't feel like you're a burden and we all need someone we can vent to from time to time.
I understand the struggle of wanting to vent but not wanting to come off like you vent all the time. I even keep a tally in my head of all the things I complain about to each person I'm in contact with, hoping to level out my venting so I don't shun someone away. I'm sure many others feel the same. I also know that when you pretend like everything is ok and it's not, that can backfire really bad too.
Honesty is the best policy and I think when we're honest with ourselves and others about our struggles and the things we're dealing with, we can learn to be ok (at least for the most part). So I'm saying it - it's ACTUALLY ok to not be ok. Just make sure you're working on bettering yourself and your outlook in the meantime.