New Year, Who Dis?
Every year brings with it new trends - some good, some bad, some we hope never resurface again. I think 2018's trends could be summarized by weird flex but ok, moths & lamps, and crippling depression (just kidding! kinda...). So what's it gonna be for 2019??? I'm no trendsetter (except for maybe among my friend group when it comes to dressing up - sorry ladies, y'all could step it up a bit) but I personally hope those sequin belts we all wore in middle school make a comeback and also we find a new word to use in place of "Lit" bc I'm tired of it.
These Things Are Probably About To Be V Trendy-
Just a heads up so you can be like "OMG I had NO idea clear purses were making a comeback?!".
Insane Ice Cream Flavors
Ok but I do love ice cream so I'm okay with this one, I do think Ben & Jerry's is already kinda nailing the ice cream flavor game but I'm open to new suggestions.
You can thank the Vegans for this one - I used to be Vegan & jackfruit is actually super good so I'm all about it.
It's gonna be a LIT year (okay, for real, we need a new word to use in place of "Lit")
Environment Friendly Products
We got rid of straws, what's next?
I like the idea it's just I don't love the idea of everyone knowing what I'm carrying around. I'll go with it though.
The Leopard Print is NOT leaving yet you guys. & personally I'm very excited about that because I've been waiting YEARS to be able to pull out my leopard print winter coat again & sing Cheetah Girls.
Instragram Stories are like the new big social media thing & it's probably gonna stay that way - so start posting y'all!
Carrie Bradshaw would be SO proud of us! Get ready to see girl's everywhere prancing around in those little strappy tiny heels. I'm ready for it!
Apps that aren't solely social media related are about to be jumping on the AR train so we can get ready to be even more immersed in technology. Hard to say if that's a good or bad thing.
It's all about the monochromatic look, thankfully I've been into that look for awhile now so let's do it 2019.
Y'all The TYME Iron Is The Only Curling Iron You Need... Trust Me!
Raise your hand if you are actually super good at curling your own hair....
Probably no one let's be real. I'm 25 and have owned countless curling irons my whole life and it still takes me about 80 tries, burnt hair ends, and a bottle of hair spray to get ONE good curl- ONE! That is until I splurged on the TYME Iron - and now my hair is SO easy to curl it's crazy.
I was always one of those people who always straightened my hair because I just can't use a curling iron to save my life, maybe I'm just super lacking hand eye coordination or something but it was never working for me. I've always wanted to get bombshell curls like the Victoria's Secret models but I never knew how to achieve that look without spending $75+ at a salon.
My friend curls her hair every. single. day. and it always looks AMAZING. I asked her once what she was doing because I was like there's no way she's getting that look from a wand. She told me all about the TYME Iron and how it's basically the curly version of a straightener. I was shook. Then I found out it was $175 and I was like ok I don't need beautiful curls that bad.
Months (actually years) went by and every time I saw my friend I was obsessed with how good her hair looked. Finally (this past September) just a few days before my cousin's wedding, I decided to go ahead and splurge on the TYME iron. I figured what I was spending would pay off in the long run if I liked it because I easily spend half that amount to get my hair professionally styled. I found it on Amazon which was super convenient because I was able to get one day shipping just in time for my cousin's wedding.
I'll be honest, it takes a bit of time to get the hang of it. I first tried it out on my hair THE MORNING OF my cousin's wedding and that wasn't the best idea ever. I ended up having to go with it half up, half down since I couldn't get the hang of it and each curl looked a bit different. It still looked good though - better than other curling irons. I could see that I would be able to get the hang of it with practice and time.
It's definitely one of those flip of the wrist things. Like once you get it you're gonna be like DUH. But it might take some Youtube video tutorials & practice to figure it out. If you spend some time with no place to go, I think you can easily master the technique you're looking for within an hour or two. Obviously the more you use it the better you'll get. I've since been able to figure out how to curl my hair exactly the look I want and now my hair looks really good when I style it. I recommend the TYME iron 10/10, 5 stars. I've yet to use any of their other hair products but it's definitely on my list of beauty products to purchase.
If you're on the fence about it, definitely consider making the purchase. If you already get perfect curls with a different styling product then that's amazing (bc I seriously have no idea WHAT you're doing to get that result!). If you're like me and you're just not savvy enough with those old school products and even the curling wands, I totally recommend making the investment. BC girl you totally deserve some amazing curls!
I've been through some ups and downs in life. One thing I've always heard people say when they find out you're dealing with a tough moment is "time heals all wounds". & at the time when people have said that to me I've always questioned the validity to that statement. Does time really heal all wounds? Is time the biggest healer of all?
I do think time can take care of certain things. For example, minor problems can disappear given enough time. That neighbor who blasts their music at 2am and drives you crazy, they might move. & there goes that problem. Or time can lead to maturity and new understandings, making trivial problems seem unnecessary. I think with time certain memories fade away and this leads to feeling less emotions (good or bad) about it.
I also think sometimes there are certain emotions and pains you may never get over. You might still feel empty inside from losing a friend or a bad breakup or a life tragedy. Time definitely has a way of making things easier. Life will change and you might change, things that at one time seemed impossible now might be very possible. Time is such a strange concept. Sometimes it ticks by so slowly that it doesn't even feel real and other occasions it goes by so fast that you feel like you've been sucked into a time warp.
They say to give things time. I think that is most certainly a valid point. Time will always tick on and if we give things time, we might see a new result. Does time heal all wounds? I don't think so. I do think it makes them a bit less deep, however. Or maybe it just gives us a new perspective.
Unintuition's List of 219 Things To Do In 2019
It's finally here! My annual post of "21_ Things To Do In 201_". I've been working on this list for MONTHS because as you may or may not know I never repeat the same thing twice. My first list - "216 Things To Do In 2016" - went viral 3 years back and I've since followed up with "217 Things To Do In 2017" and "218 Things To Do In 2018".
While I've put a lot of thought into each year's list, this year was different. This year was a struggle for me, as have the previous years but 2018 was a whole new level. This was also a year where I learned the most about myself and I faced a lot of mental health challenges in order to get where I am now. It's also been an amazing year filled with travel, lots of new moments, and people in my life that want to be in it - which is the first time in a long time I can say that. I can honestly say since my first list that this is the first time I've posted one where I am actually feeling happy, excited, and ready for the holidays and a New Year.
I have high hopes for 2019 & I think we all should. It's been a rough decade for a lot of us- individually and as a community. Let's finish this decade out with a bang so we can finally party like the roaring 20s all over again!
So here it is - my list of 219 Things To Do in 2019! If you have thoughts or ideas for things to add to this list -feel free to leave your comments below!
I'm also sharing the PDF version available to purchase which includes a full checklist of all 219 Things To Do, a printable calendar, a little eBook I threw together on my thoughts about the New Year and why I write this list, as well as few extra goodies. I hope you buy it because I spent a lot of time making the calendar! :) Happy New Year!
1. To stop overthinking
2. How to fish
3. How to tie a knot that will withstand (almost) anything
4. One survival skill you should totally know but don’t
5. Information on a trending news topic you don’t know much about
6. To leave good reviews instead of bad ones
7. A super impressive magic trick
8. How to do coffee art (at least one design!)
9. Axe throwing
10. How to cut out toxic people in your life
11. Facts about something super random/crazy (like ancient Egypt, alien theories, etc)
12. How to make/roll your own sushi
13. One super helpful tip that will make your life easier
14. A new perspective
15. Videography basics
16. How to bake a cake from scratch
17. To be a better speed reader
18. Jump start a car
19. More street smarts
21. The benefits of portion size
23. How to whistle with your fingers (taxi anyone?)
24. The periodic table of elements
25. How to split firewood
26. Wax a car
27. How to fillet a fish
28. All about blockchain development
29. About Google analytics
30. French cooking
31. How to easily adjust to Daylight Savings this year
32. Cook a turkey
33. All about climate change
34. All about the water crisis (& investing in water!)
36. How to moonwalk
37. How to pick a lock
38. Open a beer/wine bottle without an official bottle opener
39. How to tear open an apple in half with your hands (I know, it sounds crazy but impressive!)
40. What day or date of the week certain days/holidays fall without having to look it up!
41. The easy way to boil eggs
42. Candle carving
43. Better English (or whatever your native language is) by taking an advanced language class - because we all get a bit lazy!
44. All about abstract art
45. All about open source software
46. How to identity more plants
48. Negotiating tactics
50. How to escape duct tape, handcuffs, etc
51. How to make a sales pitch
52. How to build a network
53. Teach your pet a new trick
54. About the architecture in your city
55. Cooking new meals with Blue Apron
56. An ethnic dish you never would consider
57. Being sober at something you normally would drink at
60. Going one week without cursing (bc even if you like to talk like a sailor, sometimes it’s ok not to)
61. Taking a daily vitamin
62. Getting eyelash extensions (at least for a few weeks to see if you like your new look!)
63. Reading some pretty amazing entries & advice from DearCaptain.com
64. Riding a virtual reality rollercoaster/ride
65. Dressing like your favorite Instagram influencer for a week
66. Imperfect Produce
67. Going an entire week or month without online shopping, Amazon Prime, or food delivery (I know, it’s like the caveman days!)
68. An aerial silk class
69. Trapeze Class
70. Attending a Toastmasters class
71. Dating someone in the “real” world & not off of an app
72. Going to a book club
73. Candlelit yoga
74. Getting really good at something you’ve been interested in for awhile but haven’t fully pursued
75. Grammarly (For perfect emails & writing!)
76. Reading 24 books this year
77. Being more spontaneous
78. Doing more face masks to relax
79. Dragon’s Breath Ice Cream
80. Getting up early on a day you would normally sleep in
81. Selling something you don’t need on LetGo
82. 23 & Me
83. A food of the month club
84. The “Plogging” fitness craze
85. Meal prepping for 1+ week straight
86. Finding a new credit card that will give you rewards & points that is super beneficial to you
87. Not rolling your eyes in situations you normally would
88. Baking bread from scratch
89. Supporting something on Indiegogo
90. A Spartan Race
91. Different hot sauces
92. Driving a tank (Groupon!)
93. The Whole30 Diet
94. Cooking with your crockpot for 1 week straight
95. Watching all of the movies nominated for awards this year
96. Writing for a blog/website/column
97. Water-infused beauty products
98. Eating more adaptogens
99. Vero social media
100. Insect-infused recipes
101. Silkworm protein powders (super nutritional!)
102. The Blossom Cup (Ladies- I hear it's amazing!)
103. Class Pass
104. Taking a class of interest on Lynda
105. Taking a flight/train ride/or even a ride share to a random location or wherever destination is next
106. A Vipassana meditation course
107. Spending an entire weekend alone with no plans
108. The 52-week money challenge
109. A photo album of 2018
110. Your perfect 2018 playlist to always look back on
111. A list of everything you want to accomplish this year
112. A wine collection to open on special occasions (i.e. future birthdays, anniversaries, promotions, etc)
113. You & your friend’s own version of a fantasy draft that isn’t necessarily football/basketball (i.e. The Bachelor Fantasy Draft)
114. A Snapchat geo-filter for a party or event you’re hosting
115. A super creative hashtag to use on your photos throughout the year
116. A trip with a large portion of your friends to take in 2019
117. Naming a star
118. Highlighting parts of poems you love in a poetry book & gifting it to your lover, best friend, close family member, etc
119. A super organized folder with all of the important documents you have to keep (taxes, insurance info, etc)
120. A list of podcasts you really like
121. A holiday wreath for your door
122. A costume completely from scratch for a costume party
123. A super organized e-mail account that is caught up, sorted, & easy to navigate
124. Cocktail with edible cocktail paint
125. An infinity puzzle light
126. An organized make-up area
127. Your own face mask from scratch
128. An art project or installation out of old clothes
129. A furniture piece out of wooden pallets
130. An area outside where you can relax on a daily basis (or a kit/bag you can take to a local outdoor area to relax)
131. Custom thank you/birthday/holiday cards to send out
132. Paintings/drawings created after people watching at a cafe, museum, or other events
133. A terrarium
134. An updated savings/retirement/investment plan
135. A daily gratitude journal for 2019
136. A high performance work out plan for 30 days
137. Your own Vlog
138. Ways to mentor to someone
139. The ultimate toolbox for any home improvement project
140. Your own comic book
141. An Instagram or Snapchat account JUST FOR YOU (keep it on private) to share and document whatever you want from 2019
142. A Facebook group over something you’re interested in or passionate about where you can share and grow within a community
143. An account with TikTok
144. A manicure/pedicure routine
145. Rewards account with a company/store you frequently use but have yet to join
146. Your own bath scrubs/soaps
147. A collection of your favorite poems and/or short stories
148. A list of things you want to purge or get rid of from your life in 2019
149. Better ways to market yourself or your business
150. A daily breakfast routine (Since we all sometimes miss the most important meal of the day!)
151. A time during the day where you can take a break or reflect
152. A list of 10+ self-improvement books to read by 2020
153. Your personal brand
154. A book filled with all of the ideas that come to you this year - be it work related, home projects, etc
155. A ten-year vision
156. A bucket list of things to do in your city/state
157. Ways to not get so worked up about daily minor inconveniences
158. Your own take on a classic or favorite recipe
159. A gallery photo wall
160. An organized, inspiring home office
161. A Polaroid photo collection
162. Care bags to donate to your local animal shelter with treats, dollar store blankets, etc
163. A relaxing spa day at Aire
164. An amazing (affordable!) trip off Groupon
165. Buying a drink/dessert/gift for a random couple, bachelor/bachelorette party, friend group, family, etc that you see out celebrating one night
166. A hockey game
167. Dine/drink at a robot bar
168. Being on live TV
169. Hosting a Secret Santa exchange
170. New Years Eve 2020 some place amazing
171. A fun night at Punch Bowl Social
172. Buying a few more boxes of girl scout cookies than normal to support their cause (and a healthy diet!)
173. A burlesque show
174. A Sofar Sounds show
175. Volunteering at a non-profit you care about
176. Volunteering somewhere out of your comfort zone
177. One weekend where you have zero plans & can 100% seize the day or any opportunity that comes your way
178. Your own glow-up
179. A play put on by a local elementary school
180. Ice Bowling
181. Getting rid of something you’ve always wanted to keep (because material items really aren’t everything)
182. A beautiful sunset
183. Coachella / ACL / Lollapalooza / SXSW / ETC
184. Going to a Renaissance Festival/fair
185. Feeding local wildlife
186. A pumpkin patch
187. A shopping spree with any gift cards you’ve been gifted the past few years (a lot of them expire in 2020!!)
188. Donating plasma
189. A halfway to Halloween party
190. A cat cafe
191. Hosting a 90s themed party
192. An “Instagram” pop up event
193. Hearing/seeing/meeting a politician you admire
194. A secret dining event
195. An alcohol inhalation bar
196. Sleeping with an air purifier
197. Digital art projection of some type (BC It’s V trendy!)
198. Reading more audiobooks
199. Hearing a riveting college commencement speech
200. Organizing a local charity event/fundraiser
201. Dying your hair a crazy color (at least for a weekend!)
202. Wishing someone happy birthday/anniversary/etc over the radio
203. Attending a gala
204. Visiting the home, school, or favorite places from your childhood
205. Being completely honest with yourself in regards to the current life choices you’re making and pursuing
206. Thinking of someone else in a situation where you would normally just think of yourself
207. Leaving your phone at home & kicking it old school one night
208. The Polar Bear Challenge
209. Cutting down your own Christmas tree
210. Whitewater rafting
211. Skinny dipping
212. Entering a competition for something you’re good at or something quirky (i.e. Chili Cooking competition)
213. Making up with someone you have gotten on bad terms with
214. Randomly sending a friend lunch
215. Sitting out & talking in the moonlight with someone you care about
216. Getting lost in your town or somewhere you're visiting
217. Amazing BBQ
218. Laughing uncontrollably
219. The peace with knowing 2019 is only one year & you have many years to come- this is just one chapter in your book and if you haven't done something yet, it doesn't mean you won't
I've gone through some rough times in my life- as I'm sure you're aware if you've literally read any other of my posts on here. I've dealt with death, moving almost every year for 7 years in a row, family secrets, everyone I'm related to being divorced, life pressures, the list continues. I don't always want to make things sound so bad, because I'm incredibly blessed. I do feel hurt from time to time and it's taken a lot to pull myself out of the low spots.
When you're having a rough go at it, it can be really hard to heal yourself. I don't think many people understand this. It's amazing how some people are so emotional and others aren't at all. Or how some people feel so jaded yet others feel fine. A human mind is a crazy place. No matter what you're going through or how you feel, I think there are a lot of ways to get yourself out of the funk- at least temporarily.
Here's my list of things you can do to feel better, clear your head, & try to get back to a better mental state:
-Talk to someone
-Turn off your phone & read or watch TV - completely distraction free
-Go for a walk
-Listen to a soothing music playlist
-Volunteer at an animal shelter (even just dropping off a bag of treats and petting a few good boys will make you feel 10x better, trust me!)
-Write - Your thoughts, short stories, memories, goals, anything your heart desires
-Write cards to mail your family or friends (we ALL love getting snail mail!)
-Paint your nails
-Do a face mask
-Take a bubble bath
-Cook your favorite meal
-Go for a run
-Dance (At home or the club or even just with some friends)
-Meet someone new
-Take a break from social media
-Watch something that always makes you laugh
-Look through old photos/albums
-Start a new project
-Go for a drive
-Do candlelit yoga (or any yoga for that matter)
-Go see live music
-Learn something new
-Read a book on your religion or self-improvement
-Do something super silly
There are so many blog posts on ways to feel better and spend your time when you're down. I'm sure this post is just like all the others. My only real advice to give (and I'm speaking from my own experience - not necessarily saying anyone else feels this way) but for me, when I'm really stressed out or overwhelmed I usually know what the root cause is. & for me I'm not going to really feel 100% better until I deal with the root problem. I can mask it all I want, pretend it will go away. I'm not going to feel better until I take care of whatever is wrong. So maybe before drawing a hot bath or reading a book, I might just try to tackle the issue at hand the next time I'm feeling low. Maybe this is advice worth taking. Or maybe it's not. We're all different and we all process things at different paces. No matter what you're going through, I hope you find peace through it and know that things can get better.
You know all those princess movies we watched growing up that depicted this magical life (ok, there were a few evil queens but relatable) and everything was so happy and romantic? I don't want to say that I feel a little bit let down that life isn't exactly a fairytale every day but also.... I'm a little bit let down by it. It would be SO nice to live in a castle and have my biggest worry be am I going to be poisoned by an evil stepparent who wants to overthrow my kingdom.
All joking aside, I think life is actually a bit magical if we look for it. Sure, there's the daily grind. There's the stress that comes with adulting. Worst of all, there are calories in pizza and sushi is expensive AF. Yet, it's still pretty magical that we're here on this planet (that we're slowly killing but this isn't a political debate) and we're all just doing our own thing, living our best lives. I'm one of those people who is ALL about relaxing and treat yo' self. It's probably a bad thing because I'm so sassy and always like "let's book a trip!" or "let's buy cupcakes! or "who needs a retirement plan when I have a designer shoe collection that can support us?!". I like to relax, I like to embrace magical moments, I like to *pretend* life is a fairytale because otherwise, the tough moments in my life would probably rip me apart.
Here are some of my suggestions on how I *try* to make each day a bit more magical. Wine helps, that's for sure. Oh, and having a few pets around. They can't talk but if you drink enough wine maybe you'll hallucinate that they do.
1. Bathing Beauty: I bathe like multiple times a day. I don't think doctors would recommend that because it definitely dries out your skin, but it does feel just so soothing. I'm not saying you should run up your water bill all in the name of feeling like a queen, but definitely embrace the powers of water and soaking in a tub. Always throw in some bubbles or fun soap.
2. Dress Like It: We're not 5 years old anymore and it's no longer appropriate to wear a crown with mix-matched purple pajamas on when you leave the house (darn!), but you can still dress like a fairytale. For me, getting glammed up on a daily basis really boosts my self-confidence. I don't do it for anyone else, I do it because I like to. However, it is nice to get complimented. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks or if "you're too dressed up". If I had a dollar for anyone who asked me "what's the occasion?"I could finally buy that Max Mara cocktail gown I've been eyeing at Neiman Marcus.
3. Make Comfy Spaces: If there's anything I learned from Disney movies, it's that princesses sleep A LOT. Like all the time. Ever heard of Sleeping Beauty? Thought so. She literally slept her way into marriage (that's worded badly, I think you know what I'm trying to say though), if that's not goals I don't know what is. I'm all about a comfy bed. I personally don't own a super expensive mattress but I think when it comes to where you sleep splurging is totally acceptable. You'll get so much wear out of them and it's so refreshing to wake up in nice sheets.
4. Keep Clean: Snow White was constantly sweeping (sometimes dust under the rug but we can't always be on our A game), Cinderella literally scrubbed her tile floors with a toothbrush. These ladies meant business. A clean space is a happy space. My mind is always feeling cluttered when the space I'm in is cluttered. Whenever my laundry is all done, dishes are washed, my bed is made, and my apartment is organized I feel this huge weight lifted off of my shoulders. It makes a difference to tidy up, plus seeing your place sparkling clean might make it feel a little more glamorous.
5. Read: If you can't live a fairytale, at least you can read them! Reading makes my imagination and creativity flow like crazy. I think it's a key to not only being feeling happier but also feeling like you did as a child- that excitement of diving into a new book and letting your mind wander page by page. Spending some extra time reading each day might make us all feel a bit more magical.
6. Love Someone: It doesn't have to be a lover. It could be a friend or a pet or a family member. It could be an idea or a hobby or a passion. I think love is the most magical experience of all. I think if we have someone or something to passionately love then we'll always feel like life is magical. Because it is.
Alexa, play 24K Magic By Bruno Mars.
I'm currently 25, but I had a pretty lit 24th birthday. & by lit I mean all gold everything. I love sparkly things and gold- who doesn't? So having a 24K gold themed birthday for my 24th seemed like the perfect party idea. I think this theme would also rock for a golden birthday (See ya soon 28! - hopefully not THAT soon!). You could also do the a karat/gold theme birthday party for an 18th or 75th!
Here's how I decorated & celebrated keeping that 24K theme!
Food & Drinks:
If you like it then you shoulda put a (donut) ring on it! Donuts are so cheap I love it as a go to party dessert food. In lieu of cake or cupcakes, I went with donuts! I added edible gold glitter to the tops since I'm extra. I made sure to keep gold chocolate coins ALL over as well. You really can't play up the gold theme enough.
For food, I went with a Chick-Fil-A nugget tray. Only the best. Plus nuggets go well with the theme. I considered doing chicken and waffles as well but decided to save that for another time.
Drink wise, well champagne was everywhere! A must for sure. I also think doing Mexican mimosas (champagne & tequila!) would be a great cocktail option to stick with the gold theme.
Decorating is relatively easy because you can just be super boujee. I put gold fringe everywhere (and even bought this super cheap but glam fringe chandelier - pictured far right). I think the champagne glass tower is a super fun way to decorate. It's like Gatsby is hosting your party. My previous apartment had a strange layout which made decorating more difficult, but if you get creative any space can be the perfect space to throw a party! Glassware, candlesticks, and anything that dazzles makes for the perfect table top display.
I totally recommend getting a few packs of gold glitter tea light candles. They're super great for adding mood lighting and more gold throughout your party space. Place them on bookshelves, cabinets, and various furniture tops to give a more dramatic look to your event.
Because I'm all about doing it for the Insta, I also put up a gold sequin photo booth backdrop for my friends to use. The backdrop was complete with number 24 gold balloons (did you even have a birthday if you don't include the inflatable number you're turning?).
To make these cute donut toppers, I bought black letter sticker sheets from the craft store and stuck them on to tooth picks. I then displayed them however I wanted in the donuts. You could easily do something similar with a cake or cupcakes. While I went with "Old But Gold", this topper DIY makes it easy to spell out whatever your heart desires!
Get The Lewk:
I've rounded up all my favorite gold decorations, accessories, and items that I think are perfect for creating a 24K gold themed or golden birthday party. Some of these ideas and products would be great for a NYE or Gatsby themed party as well. Don't be afraid to go a little wild & overboard!
Now I Ain't Sayin' She A Gold Digger:
I've come to the conclusion that gold is ALWAYS a good theme for a party. It can be bad, it can be boujee. It can be glamorous or you could do a speakeasy vibe. Whatever you decide to do, your playlist is equally as important. Here's my list of songs that I made sure were on repeat the night of my party:
Gold Digger - Kanye West
24K Magic - Bruno Mars
Glamorous - Fergie
Gold - Kiiara
Sunny Side Of The Street - Shazalakazoo
We No Speak Americano - Yolanda Be Cool
A Little Party Never Killed Nobody - Fergie
That's What I Like - Bruno Mars
Gin Tonic - Parov Stelar
Fashion - Lady Gaga
Le Disko - Shiny Toy Guns
Beauty Killer - Jeffree Star
Puttin' On The Ritz - Taco
Fancy - Iggy Azalea
Rockstar - Post Malone
Mannequin - Britney Spears
Pretty Girls - Britney Spears + Iggy Azalea
Uptown Girl - Billy Joel
Boom Clap - Charli XCX
Material Girl - Madonna
Never Let You Go - Waldeck
Paris - Grace Potter & The Nocturnals
Cinderella - Diana Vickers
Sparkling Diamonds - Nicole Kidman (Moulin Rouge)
Dancing In The Moonlight - Toploader
Cheap Thrills - Sia
No Money - Galantis
Barbie Girl - Aqua
1999 - Charlie XCX
Maybe it's those hipster vibes that still linger in our bones from 2014 when mustaches were placed on everything and we all got into craft beer. Or maybe it's from all the nostalgia being thrown at us from the shows we binge watch - ya know, like how all the new shows take place in the modern day but everyone is driving a 1946 Ford Mustang and wearing vintage denim jackets. Trippy. Or maybe it's just because no matter how amazing the world of technology gets, there's something about those classic pieces that nothing can beat.
In other words, I think we can all agree that we would really like to start a vinyl record collection (or, for those not new to the game - continue investing in a vinyl record collection!).
It seems easy enough to start a vinyl record collection, right? I mean you just buy a record player and Amazon Prime some of your fav records. Simple enough?
Probably. But because we all love to give our opinions and read trivial blog posts - I decided why not write a guide on vinyl record collecting 101. Like anything, starting a true collection takes research and time. While I'm not exactly an expert, my dad is (he has 8,000+ records and counting) and between what he's told me and what I've discovered from personal experience, I think my advice is decent enough. This is the internet after all - people will believe anything.
1. Invest In A Good Turntable:
Ok, this is an obvious first step. I think many of us sometimes skimp on the tech details in order to find a good deal. We also sometimes tend to over splurge on items we don't know much about (usually in order to come off super trendy and boujee, let's be real). So before you buy an overpriced record player that's trending on Instagram for its gold finishes or a super cheap record player from Goodwill - I admire your determination to stick with the vintage theme, here's what you really need to know about purchasing the perfect turntable.
While definitely a bit overhyped, I think we can all agree that they look #aesthetic and that the sound quality is, for the most part, decent enough. If you're looking for starting a collection and aren't exactly sure how much time or money you'll be investing into it then I recommend the Crosley Radio Cruiser Deluxe Turntable. It looks sleek, it's easy to transport to and from, and you can even hook up your Bluetooth for when you are in more of a Spotify mood or have yet to build up a large collection of records. Priced around $70-80, it's a good deal for both a vinyl player and a speaker.
2. Get Some Background Information:
Not to speak for everyone here but I'm one of those people who doesn't really research ANYTHING beforehand. So when I start a new hobby (or really do anything for that matter) I'm super uneducated and usually find out the hard way the things I should have known from the getgo. Spend an hour or two watching Youtube videos over the history of vinyl. Learn the differences between EP & LP. Just a simple Wikipedia search over the history of records is enough to get some background information on this new adventure you're starting. Knowing the basic terminology will help you when it comes to finding new records and getting more into the music scene.
3. It's A Lifestyle:
Some people will spend hours looking through records at their local record store. Many record stores have a community where they host events and local musicians, with people all sharing their love for music. It's really so amazing how music can bring people together. No matter how trivial it may seem to you or what type of music you're into, consider going to an event hosted by a local record store to see what the fuss is all about.
As much as it pains many of us to admit to, this is a dying industry. Supporting your local record store(s) is really important - especially with the ease of being able to order records online. Say what you want about brick and mortar but there really is something special about certain industries and being able to go into an actual building and experience something deeper than clicking a button. Most record stores let you listen to your record first before purchasing it. It's a way to spend a Saturday, a great place to wander on a date, and something you can do completely alone. Join the community and I think you'll really appreciate this new collection you're starting.
4. Buy what YOU want:
Don't try to impress anyone but yourself when it comes to starting your record collection. My collection goes from Britney Spears to Elvis Presley to Hank Williams. Unless you plan to sell this collection down the road, don't spend your time or money buying records to build up a collection of music that you're not super passionate about. It's different when you're making tons of Spotify playlists to just throw anything and everything on there. When it comes to collecting records, research what you want. Maybe you only want to buy LPs. Maybe you prefer to stick with one genre. Whatever it is, you do you boo.
I've been faced with a lot of hardships over the years that sometimes makes it difficult to get my hopes up about things. I fear rejection or disappointment or something terrible happening whenever I plan something or get excited. It's just a natural inclination I have to build walls in order to avoid getting hurt. & while maybe it does help keep me from getting emotionally attached, it does make it hard to feel the excitement.
However, I think it's best to get our hopes up. Because what's the worse that can happen? It doesn't work out? We get let down? We feel bad about it? Those things could happen anyways. But what if it does work out? What if it all goes as planned? What if it's an amazing thing??
Life is short but it's also really long. It's a journey and I think so often when we're in a bad spot we feel like it's always going to be bad. I think we have to look at life like we look at the stock market. There are ups and downs but you can't have one without the other. You can't have the highs without the lows. & as a general trend, we're always growing and gaining. It's easy to feel like we're at the lowest point but from a trend standpoint, we had to go up to get this far.
So, get your hopes up. Be excited. Embrace each chapter, moment, person in your life. Even if they do your wrong or even if you regret it later. It's worth feeling that rush of adrenaline. It's worth thinking about something over and over again because it makes you feel happy. It's all worth it, and the chances are good that things will work out - they always do.
September was National suicide / mental health awareness month and I'm sure many of y'all saw posts or signs that said: "It's ok to not be ok". Yet, how many of us really feel like this is true? Is it really ok to not be ok? Because most of us don't want to hear about someone else's problems or frame of mind- unless they're really near and dear to our hearts. The minute an acquaintance or stranger says one negative thing to me on a daily basis I can't help but think "dang, this person is KILLING my positive vibes!" - even if I myself don't have any positive vibes.
We're judging creatures. & I think we all want and are attracted to happiness. Or at least something that gives the allusion of happiness. Maybe it's money, success, a hobby, a person, a material item, a place - but something guides us and makes us believe that happiness can be obtained if we try hard enough. So I think it comes by human nature that we aren't attracted to people who are down or negative, even if we feel the same way. We want someone to inspire us, lift us up. Maybe because we can't do it ourselves.
That all being said, it is actually ok to not be ok. Maybe you don't have to scream it from the rooftops or talk about it 24/7, but if you're not feeling like life is that great right now then you should express it. Friends and family don't feel like you're a burden and we all need someone we can vent to from time to time.
I understand the struggle of wanting to vent but not wanting to come off like you vent all the time. I even keep a tally in my head of all the things I complain about to each person I'm in contact with, hoping to level out my venting so I don't shun someone away. I'm sure many others feel the same. I also know that when you pretend like everything is ok and it's not, that can backfire really bad too.
Honesty is the best policy and I think when we're honest with ourselves and others about our struggles and the things we're dealing with, we can learn to be ok (at least for the most part). So I'm saying it - it's ACTUALLY ok to not be ok. Just make sure you're working on bettering yourself and your outlook in the meantime.