I'm sitting in my hotel room in Las Vegas.
It's a Friday night around 10:30pm. I've been here about 5 days taking a nice vacation with my boyfriend.
Fun fact: We came here to see the Backstreet Boys opening night & it was amazing
I'm trying to decide if I should go to this nightclub tonight that I have free VIP tickets to including unlimited champagne. In doing so I started to wonder - can we really have it all?
I wrote a similar post about this conundrum recently but this is something I've been thinking about lately. I feel like we live in a time where everyone has to have it all. Women are graduating college, fitness gurus, moms, CEOs, marketing experts, Instagram models, wives, world travelers, photographers, fashion icons, BFFs, bloggers, and social climbers - Like literally I feel like women (and men) are now all of these things, and sometimes all of these things at once.
It's insane really how many hats so many of us wear (and many times feel pressured to). I'm sitting here trying to decide if I should go out and party / let loose as a 23 year old or if I should have a night in and work on my photography business / websites. I mean both are great options but really I mean WHY do we feel like we have to do it all? And can we really actually have / do it all in the first place?
It's like so many of us have FOMO and feel like we have to do so much. We have to become successful and wealthy. We have to be in shape. We have to be able to travel and live these amazingly perfect lives that include the top beauty/fashion products and luxurious amenities. We have to have a "Squad' and raging social life. We have to find someone and be mothers, or at the very least be super vocal as to how we DON'T have to do those two things. We have to be Inta Famous and have all of these awesome opportunities thrust upon us. We have to party and let loose yet we also have to be super motivated, hard workers who know professionalism.
We're constantly being pulled from one thing to another. If you want to get married and have kids then society yells "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?! Live life, be selfish! You should party and enjoy your youth!". If you party and enjoy your youth then society screams "WE DIDN'T MEAN LIKE THAT! You should be working hard and trying to have a family someday in the future." It's just this battle.
It's a lot to keep up with guys. The thing is, maybe we don't have to do any of these things. Maybe life will just happen as we let it. Maybe we should just pursue one thing at a time. Why do we have to get in shape while also finding a way to work entirely from home to travel the globe and hopefully do so only wearing designer clothing? Maybe one obstacle at a time! Slow and steady wins the race?
Also, maybe it's best to be successful but only in a few areas. Maybe this will lead to less exhaustion and stress. Maybe we need to say that it's not that we can't have it all but that we don't want to. Maybe it's that we want to focus on just a few things and excel in them terrifically.
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