It's been one of those weeks that was simultaneously amazing while also terrible.
Being home in Texas and visiting brings back a lot of old memories I've tried to ignore. However, being around friends and family is always a good time. You could say there's been a lot on my mind.
So this quote thing has kinda become a thing and for me it's therapeutic and a way to express my thoughts and photography.
I decided that if I'm going to be posting these quotes then I should be a bit more open about my own life. I am not a person to give life advice. I'm almost 24 and in the past 24 years I've had a major failed relationship (so much I prefer to not even go into details), I've had too much to drink and made multiple bad decisions, I've let people down, I've let people go, I've felt like a failure, I've had high highs and even lower lows. It's been a rollercoaster of events. I've lived in a new place every year for almost 6 years in a row now. From Houston to Austin to NYC to San Antonio to Chicago and about a million vacation spots in between.
I don't know the secrets to success or happiness. All I know is that every time I've fallen, I've had to figure out a way to get myself up. While I still have a lot to learn and discover, I've experienced death and divorce and a whole lot of hardships in recent years. I can tell you that I think choosing happiness, spending time traveling and on experiences, and following your dreams is the best route to a fulfilled life. Drama, gossip, and social media is something I try to stay away from. Comparing yourself to another is never a healthy way to spend time. You never know what someone is going through and I really believe you can never really know someone. People can change... and they can unfortunately stay the exact same.
I know for a fact that if you want something bad enough and you focus on it then you can get it. I believe in writing down dreams, spending time day dreaming, and doing what you want to do. Imagination is more powerful than you could ever believe. I also think being a good friend and not judging others is a key to being happy.
Bottom Line: I'm no expert. I've failed miserably. But I also get up and try to keep going towards my dreams and goals. I've been lucky to have some amazing friends and family who have been by my side through the darkest of moments into the sunlight. Everything changes yet everything stays the same.
I would love to hear your ideas on life. I spend a lot of time in contemplation, trying to figure this whole thing out. Thank you for checking out my quotes- I hope my words and pictures can speak to you in some way :)
I'm sitting in my hotel room in Las Vegas.
It's a Friday night around 10:30pm. I've been here about 5 days taking a nice vacation with my boyfriend.
Fun fact: We came here to see the Backstreet Boys opening night & it was amazing
I'm trying to decide if I should go to this nightclub tonight that I have free VIP tickets to including unlimited champagne. In doing so I started to wonder - can we really have it all?
I wrote a similar post about this conundrum recently but this is something I've been thinking about lately. I feel like we live in a time where everyone has to have it all. Women are graduating college, fitness gurus, moms, CEOs, marketing experts, Instagram models, wives, world travelers, photographers, fashion icons, BFFs, bloggers, and social climbers - Like literally I feel like women (and men) are now all of these things, and sometimes all of these things at once.
It's insane really how many hats so many of us wear (and many times feel pressured to). I'm sitting here trying to decide if I should go out and party / let loose as a 23 year old or if I should have a night in and work on my photography business / websites. I mean both are great options but really I mean WHY do we feel like we have to do it all? And can we really actually have / do it all in the first place?
It's like so many of us have FOMO and feel like we have to do so much. We have to become successful and wealthy. We have to be in shape. We have to be able to travel and live these amazingly perfect lives that include the top beauty/fashion products and luxurious amenities. We have to have a "Squad' and raging social life. We have to find someone and be mothers, or at the very least be super vocal as to how we DON'T have to do those two things. We have to be Inta Famous and have all of these awesome opportunities thrust upon us. We have to party and let loose yet we also have to be super motivated, hard workers who know professionalism.
We're constantly being pulled from one thing to another. If you want to get married and have kids then society yells "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?! Live life, be selfish! You should party and enjoy your youth!". If you party and enjoy your youth then society screams "WE DIDN'T MEAN LIKE THAT! You should be working hard and trying to have a family someday in the future." It's just this battle.
It's a lot to keep up with guys. The thing is, maybe we don't have to do any of these things. Maybe life will just happen as we let it. Maybe we should just pursue one thing at a time. Why do we have to get in shape while also finding a way to work entirely from home to travel the globe and hopefully do so only wearing designer clothing? Maybe one obstacle at a time! Slow and steady wins the race?
Also, maybe it's best to be successful but only in a few areas. Maybe this will lead to less exhaustion and stress. Maybe we need to say that it's not that we can't have it all but that we don't want to. Maybe it's that we want to focus on just a few things and excel in them terrifically.
Lately I've been really intrigued by humans in general and why we do the things we do. Obviously I can only speak for myself and my own abnormalities. It's amazing what we're all capable of but I think we let so many things like social media, society standards, intentions, beliefs, and other people's views determine what we end up doing with our lives. I know I spend so many time with these intentions. I intend to get really busy with work, I intend to meet up with my girlfriends, I intend to clean my apartment, I intend to write a blog post. However, many times these things don't get done and when they do it's not as good as it could be.
I think intentions are the root of [almost] all evil in some regard. Honestly if we feel like doing something then we should just do it. I don't need to have a to do list (unless I'm trying to not forget something important) because if there's something I need or want to do then I should just do that. Whatever I'm feeling should dictate my next move.
Obviously we can't just always do what we want 100% of the time. If we're working with someone or have a set plan then it's important to be responsible for those things. What I'm talking about is when we make these "To Do" plans in our mind of things we might want to accomplish soon. It seems like these things so often turn into burdens or something we're constantly thinking about but not ever doing.
I kinda feel like if it's not something you can just go ahead and do then it really must not be that important. This goes for dreams, career moves, daily tasks, etc.... & I think for many of us this is a harsh reality to face. If it's not important then why do we spend our time thinking about it? Intentions don't get you anywhere. Actions mean everything. I can have the intention of having a great website but if I never actually do anything with it then that means nothing.
So maybe March is the month to give up intentions and go with our actions. If it's important and we're thinking about it then let's get around to doing it. No more "To Do" lists.
It's a good morning to have a good morning ✨
Lately I've been trying to embrace mornings...
As someone who LOVES sleeping & has a night owl tendency, this has been a huge change in my daily routine. The thing is though- I'm really enjoying it and noticing a change in my productivity. I work from home and so this new routine has given me more time in the day and I've been making it a priority to get what I NEED to do done in the mornings so I can have more "me" time in the afternoons + evenings. Working for yourself gives you a lot of freedom but the lack of structure can definitely take a toll on you.
My BF & I just got back from nearly a month of hopping around Europe. It was amazing & we loved the different cultures. One thing we both loved was how seriously everyone took breakfast! The continental breakfasts at even the most "average" hotel put the hotels in America to absolute shame. Fresh squeezed juices, fresh fruit, cooked tomatoes- all of it was basically right off the farm and cooked with love. It was a great way to start our day and I felt so much healthier and balanced. Ever since we got back I've tried to put a higher importance on breakfast and healthy eating in general.
Even if you HAVE to get up early (and I know some of you get up EARLY!)- I think having some time for a good breakfast and just enjoying the morning is important. I think if we all tried to wake up on the right side of the bed, we would be surprised at how many other things go right the rest of the day. Let's get our beauty sleep & then wake up ready to carpe diem!
It's almost March and in the past 2 months since the New Year I haven't posted or been on Facebook (or Instagram) at all.
This is a pretty big accomplishment for me and I can say that I've grown to hate social media since being off of it.
Well two nights ago I won a costume contest at an Oscars party and had a few drinks. When I got home I was really amped up from winning and one thing led to another anddd I updated my profile picture and cover photo on FB. My boyfriend assures me this doesn't count since I didn't "post" but I've been pretty mad at myself ever since. I was enjoying the freedom and mystery that came with not posting on social media. In the past 2 months I have travelled more and made more real life friends than any other time in my life. Being off of social media has left me feeling more inspired and uplifted. It's made me analyze a lot of things in my life and I've had to reach within to find things to do with my time before scrolling and getting all wrapped up in some virtual world.
My first inclination was just to delete my FB all together as some weird way of saying f*** all of this. However, I do like having the option of using messenger incase someone needs to reach me. I was embarrassed for telling everyone I wasn't going to post for an entire year just to flaunt off 2 pictures from my trip to Europe in less than 3 months into 2017.
Another part of me thinks this is a great example of life. There's always ups and downs. There's always a part of you that's progressing but sometimes you might fall back a bit. None of us are perfect. Maybe it's not about the mistakes but about the end result. I know very few of my friends could check out of Facebook for even a week- nonetheless an entire year.
So what do I do? I'm not sure. Maybe I delete it or maybe I just chalk it up to some drunken mistake and go easy on myself. The next 9 months will be social media free.
It's not just social media that I want to approve on but my entire life. Change takes time and not going back to our usual daily tasks or habits is difficult. A lot can change in a year but sometimes we won't see how much of a change until we get to the very end.
I'm starting off my March 1st by attending opening night of The Backstreet Boys in Las Vegas- the 5 year old in me who was obsessssssed with BSB is literally freaking out! March is always a great month because winter is starting to fade & summer is on the horizon. I wanted this month's playlist to reflect that :) Would love to hear your music recommendations or what's on your current playlist in the comments :)
I'm no life expert
Recently I've found a hobby of taking my photographs and adding my own quotes to them. It's helped me sort out of my mind, thoughts, & own ambitions. I love pictures and I would love to share my art with the world. However, I'm no philosopher. I've made countless mistakes- some very big ones in my short 23 years on this planet. In fact, the only real advice I have to give is based off my own mistakes, failures, and heartaches.
I lost my best friend & cousin (practically a sister) to suicide a little over a year ago. Her death opened up the real (and scary) world of mental illness to me. I've always had a dark side that battled a bit of depression. I experience high highs and low lows. My mood changes quite easily. I think I've come to find a balance in myself and to look within in order to overcome these obstacles. My brain fights with itself constantly. One part keeps it's feet on the ground and is always wanting to take the correct path and make good choices. The other one is fleeting and dramatic, always ready to do something crazy or spontaneous- often regrettable experiences. It's a war zone in there.
So these quotes I've created are mainly for myself. It's a way to sort out the good from the bad. If you happen to feel they relate to your own life then great- I would love to hear your own stories and ideas. I'm no expert. I'm always trying to figure it out and make progress. But life is uncertain and maybe if we all learned to go with it a bit more we would end up in magical places.
I'm one of those people who constantly thinks about the future & my goals & where I want to be. It's a blessing and a curse because I always feel motivated but then I also have a hard time embracing "the moment".
Recently I've realized how important it is to just take a step back for a bit. I relaunched my wedding photography business about a year ago after moving to Chicago. I really started getting it going and ended the year with several weddings in the books for 2016. However, I also ended the year with a few bridezillas who made life pretty rough for me and left me a bit discouraged to move forward in this industry.
So the past month or two, I haven't done hardly anything. I've stepped away. Is it a risky move? Certainly. However, I've found that it's helped me re-evaluate where I want to be and how I should run my business. It's made money be much tighter and the uncertainty of the future much rockier. Yet I think it might be one of the best moves I could have made.
I've spent the past few weeks in Europe and it's really opened my eyes to new opportunities and ventures I would like to pursue. I've had new clients reach out to me for their weddings and this break I've been on has helped me discover where my true photo passions lie and how I want to recreate my business pricing and clientele.
I think sometimes the best thing to do when we feel unsure of the next move is just to not make one. Take a step back. Look into your life from the outside. Don't do anything. I think this can be applied to careers, relationships, finances, life goals, and even just daily tasks.
Taking a step back puts everything into perspective. For me it's made my decisions clearer and helped me decide the best route to take. Once we discover the next move to make then we should run for it without holding back. I'm no philosopher and by writing this I'm trying to get my thoughts in order.
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